I don’t write BDSM sex….

I don’t even try to. I have no real understanding of it. It’s like a woman writer trying to write male-male sex how does she really know? Yes, by all means email me to dispute that if you want. Anyway, why I mention this is due to the fact I got a really good review for Cintra – click here -and the reviewer mentioned how good the BDSM scenes were etc. Thank you. I appreciate it. But – and there always is one that you have to cover or think about - while I understand people have an obsessive need to tag things with labels, why do we have to tag something as primal and raw and human as sex? It just is and it’s based on preference.

Yes, by all means warn the sex in a book is graphic and could offend but labeling a story BDSM when really it’s graphic generally gets me a bunch of emails from BDSM writers telling me things like “in true BDSM she would never have put her foot there” and “only the neo-fosby-flop-flugelheimer method of tying a woman’s hands to the bed is considered true BDSM and how dare you just tie them?”

Well, the thing is I do dare. I dare a lot. Sex is about daring. It’s about doing it because you want to how you want to with who you want to. And to label it? Well, no ones ever going to agree on labels so why bother?

Sex – do it because you want to. Read it because you accept the graphic rating and just enjoy the story. Labels? Stick 'em on parcels and send them in the mail.

Email – amarinda_jones@yahoo.com.au

Amarinda Jones
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Just one thing?

Another person who writes stuff said to me ‘…but you have to admit that being a writer is the most is important thing in your life.’

Ah no…it’s not and it would be sad if it was. How can anyone be just one thing when people are compromised of so many characteristics, needs, wants and should be open to the infinite possibilities that are presented to us all? Why limit yourself to clinging to being tagged as one thing? I don’t get that. Everyone I know is more than more than one thing. Besides like any business, writing is fickle – you suck, you don’t suck, you sell, you don’t sell. What happens when your world is so wrapped up in your declaration of being only one thing? What if that one thing fails you? Are you a failure? No, of course not because you’re way more than what you may have labeled yourself.

Who are you? You’re anything you want to be so don’t slap a ticket on yourself and refuse to budge. And important things in life? I have to say writing is not in my top 5 list. Think about your list.

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