Walk of Shame...

So, I was chatting to a friend on email about the walk of shame. What is that? Well, for a woman it’s when you have sex with a man and you then go home very late at night or the next day by yourself having re-dressed in the same clothes you started the day with. There are more interpretations but that is essentially what it is. It’s also an indication of liberation and freedom that women can have sex and find their way home very nicely by themselves, feeling shagged yet good. Have I done it? Yes, but I felt no shame in it. I do what I do because I can. Hence the reason why we were talking about it on email. The writer, who I was chatting to, asked me ‘can I put that the heroine did the walk of shame? How will other women react to that? Will she come across as a slut?' My answers? Yes. Who knows. And slut is a subjective term.

Firstly, you can write about anything you like. It’s your story. Look at Fifty Shades of Gray. Did that writer think ‘oh gee, maybe I shouldn’t?’ To my mind if you have no guts, you shouldn’t be a writer. Not every will love what you write so don’t expect them to. As for how other women react to a woman having a ‘very nice time’ and going home? That will swing from remembering when to jealousy. The slut thing? See above. It’s subjective.    

Walk of shame? No shame in doing what you want. 

Open doors and minds....

So, I wrote something on facebook about liking the fact that men still open doors for me. No, I’m not some fluffy, helpless little woman who flutters her eyelids to get want she wants…oh wait…maybe I do the last bit when it suits me. However my point is that I’m a disgustingly independent woman who is capable of opening a door on my own but I appreciate it when a man does it because he wants to and that he was brought up to have good manners. Give me a man with good manners over a supermodel hunk any day.

One comment on facebook observed ‘woman’s lib be damned.’ The women’s liberation movement was never about denying men or castigating them for being gentlemanly or for wanting to do things for a woman. It was about the equality of the sexes – equal pay and equal say. And, nah, so many women don’t have the pay/say thing sorted yet but we have come along way when it comes to women’s rights. We still have a long way to go. But, on the whole, most women can do, say and be things we were shut out of before. That’s huge. Can you contemplate living in a world where the Suffragettes were fighting for the vote and were being taken to prison because of their protests?

Independence? Yes. Gentlemen with manners? Yes, I admire manners. It’s not all about being staunchly one thing or the other. Liberation in any form means freedom and the right to act as your conscience dictates without penalizing another for their thoughts and actions.