Tell me about it…

This was in an email to me today…

“What do you think most women want to hear about sexually from a man? What is going on in his mind about them….?”

Ah, yeah… 

Tied naked to a bed and then...

So, I was talking to a friend about having sex while tied up.  You know – the whole bondage deal which to me always seems weird but whatever turns you on. They recalled a time when a certain person had done exactly that- tied themselves to a bed and waited for their lover to find them.  My question is this – what if you get on a four-poster bed, naked, tie your feet up and tie one hand and then use a slip knot to pull tight the last knot so you are totally vulnerable? What if you lover doesn’t show…for hours…days…What if you have to pee? What if you forget your spinster, Great Aunt Beryl was coming over for arvo tea with her cat Tibbles and those soggy sultana scones you always hated? What if you’re friends haven’t heard from you in days and the police break in? What if, you are lying there wondering all this and thinking why didn’t I have an escape plan?  Hmmm…gotta wonder if it's all worth it.

Men and sex and stuff...

I was talking to a friend at work about men and sex and the stuff. She was worried about how she couldn’t trust some men to be faithful. Well no, you can’t. The same can be said of some women. While I don’t condone screwing around and upsetting your lover, I also know some people are never going to be able to do monogamy. It’s not in their nature.

And as for trust? To me it comes down to this – trust yourself and your instincts about another. Take the blinders off and really look at your lover without sex interfering.

As for monogamy? I’m not sure if it exists any more. Invest in condoms, accept all human beings falter and fail and sometimes loving the one you’re with is more important than chaining him to your wrist.

Amarinda Jones
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