Sunday, 8 January 2012

The viability of virginity…

I don’t know whether you’ve noticed but virgins are everywhere at the moment…at the least in romance land they are. You have the too stupid to live virgin who doesn’t get the hero is after her arse until she is flat on her back under him and then you have the oh-my-god-I-need-to-lose-it virgin. Oh, and let’s not forget the virgin who stumbles across the shape shifting wolf pack of five who need a virgin for whatever half arsed reason to make their lives complete. Why so many virgins? Is it a fad? Do we want to see innocence corrupted? Do we want to go ‘aww, how sweet’ and ‘bloody hell, he’s going to put all that into her?’ Yes, yes and yes. Frankly, romance writing world has become cruder than I’ve ever seen it. Why is that? I pondered this question with a male friend. What is it women want? Why are we reading virgin books? Do we want to remember when? Do we want to see the virgin literally shafted by a wolf pack of five men? Do we see virginity as an expendable commodity to be made money out of? Do we not value innocence anymore? I don’t know. He was very quiet on the subject. Smart man.

I have to admit that this -
Scarlet Harlot story that was subbed to me by an old Pommy (English) friend made me think about where I stood on the issue. Do I publish what I believe is romance or do I not be a prissy prude and say to hell with it? It may seem old fashioned but we – and I include myself - seem to be manipulating everything that has an ounce of purity in it into some dirty erotica story and branding it as romance to sell to women. As I said to my male friend, you have to wonder what women want. Tenderness? Passion? Or in the Aussie vernacular a good root and onto the next man? Is that romance or are we beyond that now if there is the promise of an orgasm?


Abigail-Madison Chase said...

i like some virgins and some are just too stupid to live...not sure why but you make great points

Julia Rachel Barrett said...

I agree. Apparently we all want a good old fashioned gang bang. I don't know...only know I don't like it. And I'm no prude.

Julia Rachel Barrett said...

I followed that ARE link. I think I just threw up.

Dragon Momma said...

Well....for me, the whole concept of being a virgin at 39 (just a number, for the sake of my own rant) is one of those to stupid to live. In a dream world, we'd ALL have been virgins when we married (those of us who have) and STILL known what to do. But we don't live in a dream world. Nothing is perfect. Nothing SHOULD be perfect in my opinion. Why? If you already have perfect, then you don't strive for that one thing that is just out of reach. You become complacent. Maybe reading about virgins in the books we read is a way to HAVE that dream world, so that we keep on striving and reaching in the real world. Perfection gets to be boring. Who wants to be bored in life? I do, but only when reading the books I do. They really DO make me appreciate my husband and family more.

I hope I didn't confuse anyone!! It is almost 1 am here and I am tired. ;)

Stacy Wilson

dragn_lady at yahoo dot com

ps....I don't prefer to read about virgins in my preferred genre. ;) Was just sayin.... :p

Sandra Cox said...

Hmm, never heard root used in that context before.