Monday, 18 August 2008

Beauty disadvantaged?

I heard something so ridiculous on the radio this morning that there was no way I could not have an opinion on it…

“May I suggest if there are five blokes to every girl, we should find out where there are beauty-disadvantaged women and ask them to proceed to Mount Isa," Cr Molony said.

"Quite often you will see walking down the street a lass who is not so attractive with a wide smile on her face. Whether it is recollection of something previous or anticipation for the next evening, there is a degree of happiness.

"Often those who are beauty-disadvantaged are uphappy with their lot.”

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Hmmmif you read my blog regularly you'll know how I feel about crap like this. Beauty
disadvantaged? Oh please…

I know there is a great problem of male to female ratio in remote areas in Australia, and across the world, when it comes to people being able to find partners. When you think about it, this has been a problem for centuries. Think back hundreds of years to the whole 'go west young man' thing when men headed off to seek fortune and adventure. Think of the gold rushes, the land booms or even further to when adventurers sailed the sea in search of new lands to colonize. There has always been the problem of a lack of women in remote locales. And yeah, that would be hard for men wanting to have love in their life and start a family.

So back to this 'beauty disadvantaged' crap. Which genius decided who or what is disadvantaged in this way? And trying to neatly with over-political correctness call it beauty disadvantaged does not make it any better when you know this old fashioned individual means ugly - or what he deems as ugly. And exactly whose beauty standards do we follow in this? Isn’t there enough crap now about perceptions of beauty and how people - women - young girls - are killing themselves to look a certain way without perpetuating this crap? And here's another thing…what if you are single and alone and wanting romance? Do you start to think to yourself 'I must be unattractive? Maybe I have to go out west where the men are desperate for women and I could get lucky.' What message does that send women? If you can’t find a man in a place where there are more men then women then you’re in deep trouble and there is no hope for you? Or are you supposed to go to a remote location and take up with any bloke as it could be your last chance?

And what about the men in these areas?
The mining town has traditionally had a largely male population, with many of the men saying they move to Mount Isa to earn money, not find love.
Maybe some are looking for a partner. Maybe some aren’t. Why is there this old fashioned need to pair people up? Maybe they are there working in a remote area for the specific reason to earn money and when they have enough they'll go back to where they came from. Maybe they don’t want to settle down in a remote area and have a family. Maybe they don't want to be seen as desperate in the eyes of a woman. How many men would? Also are these men beauty disadvantaged or disadvantaged in some another way that sends them to these remote locations? Are they hiding out there because they cannot function in life somewhere else? Of course they're not. If it was the other way around and men were going to a remote town in search of the plethora of women you can bet this person wouldn’t have called them ‘beauty disadvantaged.’ They would have been called something that indicated the whole caveman-boys-will-be-boys thing.

And here's another thing - just because a woman or a man in not in a relationship does not mean they are desperate to be in one – or that they are unattractive. Some people can stand alone. They do not need to throw themselves in desperation at someone to love them. They can quite easily go and work somewhere remote without needing to scratch an itch or start searching for Mr or Mrs. Right. Let's get into the real world and accept people for who and what they are and stop the perception that there is something wrong with them if they are not joined at the hip with someone.

To me, this person’s comments were a smack in the face to this great town, to women and to men. Maybe he needs to think about what century he is in. Beauty disadvantaged? I know no one physically so. However some seem to be lacking brain cells.
Go ahead: Live with abandon. Be outrageous at any age. What are you saving your best self for?


barbara huffert said...

I thought you were becoming Queen of the Universe so this stuff stopped happening. Oh wait, that's tomorrow. And that was on the radio?

Sandra Cox said...

Well said.

Cindy Spencer Pape said...

In the great words of Slappy the Squirrel, "Somebody get me a peen-ball hammer."

Ashley Ladd said...

That guy is seriously lacking in brain cells. "Ugh!" is right.

Anny Cook said...

He's an idiot. Most of the women in the American West towns where there were huge groups of men were "professionals"--or already married. You're absolutely correct--when the guys made their money, they went back home to marry the girl next door.


Molly Daniels said...

Well said!

Katie Reus said...

I saw this article on msnbc news and immediately hit up your blog. I knew you'd have something good to say! :) The mayor of that town (or whoever made the assinine statement) needs a kick in the ass.

Regina Carlysle said...

Hmm. Hopping a plane while feeling the fierce need to smack this guy in the chops! Pardon me...but what a dickhead!