Thursday, 20 August 2009

Catch him? And then what?

…remain paranoid about keeping him?

Someone sent me this today…

- What goes on inside a man's mind... and how attraction works for him.
- How to "cheat-proof" your relationship... and why he might be tempted.
- The ten fatal mistakes to avoid that most women make with men.
- What to do if your man has a "wandering eye".
- The differences in how men and women think about dating... and why most men want to keep you from being successful.
- The seven secrets to communicating with a man that will create lasting love and affection.
- The truth about men who aren't "emotionally available"... how to know if you've got one and what to do if you're dating one.
- The five things women do that annoy men and kill intimacy.
- The inside tips married women know about the tell-tale signs of a great guy.

Catching and keeping a man. Hmm…while I understand that people want to be in love, I have to wonder if men get the same spiel that women do when it comes to tips on finding a woman. I doubt it. I imagine it would be all about being sensitive and caring and ‘listening to her’ until she believes you mean it. And, do men want to catch and keep or is it just women with the lasso? You have to wonder when you read all that above. Frig…why would you bother agonizing over all that? What happened to meeting – deciding if you’re compatible and then working out where to go from there?

Yes, love is complicated. Relationships are difficult – but hunting down then tagging and bagging a man, after following a set of defined rules, seems both desperate and pretty damn non romantic to me. I also have to wonder why any woman would allow herself to get to the stage when she is looking to utilize tips like this. Is it a self esteem issue that women feel they ‘have to have a man’ or is it society deems they should and if they don’t ‘what’s wrong with them?’ As we all know, the honest truth is some people fall in love, some don’t and some never stay with their true love. It’s a crap shoot really. Why stress over it?
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